The Question of the Day

Today I was ask a question. A guy of which i do not know, posed a question, and it went something like this, "How do I know, that this girl who I have been going out with is "the one" for me? Now the person who actually imposed this question (might I remind you) I do not know him. He is not even a 2nd degree of friend, probably the 3rd. I was ask through a friend, who asked through a friend. However I did answer the question and this was my answer:

Dear (name),

I understand that you have difficulties in knowing if a person is "the one" for you. Well in my opinion, i believe that such questions should not be asked to anyone else but yourself. No one knows what you know, or feel what you feel. This world is guided by so many forces beyond human understanding. Love like gravity is just a matter of law, but love has no Newton like figure, because no one could really understand it. It is the most dangerous as it is very tricky. However I could extend a hand by saying that even though the nature of love is hard to comprehend, but sometimes if you are honest with what you want, it will make it easy for you. As for knowing "the one", when you see her, you will know. It will instantly generate a strong gush of feelings. You will feel it throughout your entire body, you feel it in your hand, you feel it in your stomach and in your heart. It flow through you, emptying you and filling you all at once. The question it re-imposed back to you is this, have you ever felt like this about someone, if you have to think about it, then you have not felt it. This in all i could say about this subject. In my opinion. :)

Now I felt that it was a bit silly asking me, because I have yet found "the one" or felt the things that I had mentioned above myself; but deep inside of me knew that I had felt it, and I have let her go. So what now? Do I get a chance to feel it again? 

In one thing I was sure was that 'LOVE' is a bit more extensive then the understandings of gravity. This is because gravity is abstained by Newton, whereas the laws of love has time and time again proved the person who research about this things (I do not know what they are called)wrong. 

I choose to believe that the universe and all that is in it is controlled by God (Allah SWT), and If we do find ourselves in this sort of pickle only He could help. Remember when he took Adam's rib to create Eve, I believe that is one of the greatest move Allah has ever performed. He meant to let us all know that there is someone for all of us. A rib is a part of you and when you find your rib, it will make you whole again.

So I stand by what I said, that only you could know if this girl is "the one" for you because only you can know how you feel. 

While I was thinking on this subject, I also realized that the idea of marriage scares the 'bajeebeez' out of me. This is so because getting married would mean starting a family, and this seems to be a terrible sense of fear of commitment, and responsibility on my part. I then came to terms with it when I finally knew the answer right there in my head. The idea might seem terrible to me now, but when I finally meet "the one" all of my fear will be diminished and marriage will seem so much less scary. 

Every thing has always and will always be on you.